When stress never seems to end, work deadlines feel like an assassin stalking you every day. How will you keep up? Add to this the feelings of anxiety and overwhelm that there are never enough minutes to do all you need to do. Or take care of everyone expecting you to serve them.
You keep your head to the grindstone because you’ve made commitments to reaching certain deadlines. There are people waiting for you to deliver. But you don’t have the energy, confidence, and strength to push through another twelve hour slog. Yet you do it anyways because that’s what’s required for you to reach your goals.
All these factors follow you home to your interactions with your spouse/significant other, kids, or roommates. It’s easy to become irritable. To let little things turn into big things. Overreacting and miscommunicating how you feel that creates more stress and frustration.
Your inner critic always has the first and last word
All the while there’s that little voice in your head that doesn’t seem to quit. It’s not pushing you forward like a motivational Jiminy Cricket. No, it’s telling you that you’re destined to fail. It says no one cares. That this is a waste. That you’ll never win.
This kind of anxiety and stress leads to burnout, and can cause serious mental and health issues if they go on. But what do you do? It’s normal to live, work, and operate with rising expectations from other people, an endless list of To-Dos, and feeling like you’re not going to be able to make it all work, right?
Some people live this way. They’re usually pretty miserable and aren’t quiet about how they feel. But you don’t have to live like this. Not if you want to have peace in your life, be confident and secure in your personal and professional world. Overwhelm, stress, and anxiety may be the norm for a lot of our hurried and consumed culture, but it doesn’t have to be the way you live and work.
Why choose to let this be your every day experience?
Recently I was asked to speak to a group of artists about how to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of other people. The question came from a subject I’ve covered on my Healthy Dose Of Vitamin D Grant video series. The same inner issues that surround a full-time musician in dealing with overwhelm, anxiety, and stress are what business leaders, executives, and entrepreneurs wrestle with.
What does it look like to take care of ourselves so that we have more enough energy, care, time and love for others that we want to work with?
Is taking care of yourself a priority, or are you constantly putting other people ahead of you on the priority list and always seeming to come up short?
What to do to take care of yourself involves keeping your well full
There’s a metaphor that will help you understand why taking care of yourself is so important in you being able to help other people AND have peace in the process.
Remember back in the day before indoor plumbing? A while ago, people got their daily water from a well. It was either on their property or somewhere in their community. Folks would to the well and lower buckets into it to draw out water. With this water, they could live. They could have water to drink, to wash, to clean, to take care of themselves.
But what happened if the well ran dry? Anxiety and stress overload!!! They would not be able to take care of themselves or their families. There would be a huge burden on individuals and groups. Ultimately the whole community would suffer.
Niklas Goke has a very powerful statement about how love really is and how it really works, that fits perfectly into this metaphor for how we take care of ourselves to keep anxiety, stress, and overwhelm from taking over.
Anxiety doesn’t have to be the way you live
Our lives as individuals are the same thing. You have a well within you that has to be full of love and resource for you to operate. Not only for you to be able to give and serve other people, but mainly for you to function as a whole person.
You cannot pour from an empty cup. You certainly can’t be a resource for yourself or other people if you allow your inner well to run dry.
Which is why it’s so important to take care of yourself and treat your inner well with the care it deserves. You achieve this by filling yourself with encouragement and light on a daily basis. Surround yourself with good people. And make sure that you are maintaining a healthy balance of work and play.
Regardless of where you work or what you do, you’re very driven to make your work excellent. You’re driven to fulfill the never ending to-do lists. And you spend a ton of energy working on how to serve your businesses and clients to give them the best results possible. That’s a lot of water coming out of your well.
How are you filling it up?
What are you doing to make sure that your inner well always has resource and supply in it to keep anxiety and overwhelm away?
This is the consistent thread that my coaching clients come to me for help with. It’s about finding the peace, strength, and empowerment to go beyond reaching their goals, but thriving in the process.
If your work life is suffering, your home life is suffering too. Maybe it’s causing tension and anxiety with your interpersonal relationships. Maybe you’re having a hard time relaxing or being present with your family and friends. You find yourself overthinking and constantly stressful.
And you don’t know what to do about it.
Success in business and in life is much more than reaching financial goals, though those are certainly wonderful to meet. Success comes in having confidence, peace, and solidarity in the process. Being able to handle more and taking care of yourself at the same time. It’s about enjoying life while you live it, instead of grinding away with the hope that one day things will work out.
Would you rather have peace in the process or stress in the grind?
Imagine peace in the process. Not an easy fix or magic pill. But actual peace during your work, where each day is a joy to experience. Your work is what you get excited about. The people you serve, work with, and provide for are a blessing to interact with. You love the opportunity to do what you do. Growth and success feel wonderful and you want to do more of it.
As you opt for peace in the process, with a measure of confidence and empowerment on a daily basis, the way forward just takes a small commitment you make to yourself. Just 5-10 minutes everyday. The way to get there is detailed in this powerful ebook, a part of the Growth Farming Method For Success and Transformation.
The results are inner peace, confidence, better relationships in your personal and professional world and strength in yourself. The inner critic is silent. Instead, your well will overflow with joy and peace for yourself and those you serve. Life, the way it was intended to be lived with peace and success for everyone.
Take the next step towards peace and away from stress by refilling your well today.
My mission in life is to empower and help people break free from worries and fears to become your best self.
I look forward to talking with you!